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Surefire Ways to Fail at Everything April 17, 2013

Posted by frewon9 in Fail stuff.

7 Surefire Ways to Fail at Everything That Matters in Life

  By Trevor Wilson



(This post is part of the Friday Night Kick in the Ass series.)


How’s your track record looking these days? Have you been smashing your goals left and right? Kicking ass and taking names?


If so, then you can just skip this post. You’ll find nothing here you don’t already know.


But if your track record isn’t so great, then you may just want to read on. There’s a multitude of reasons for why you haven’t been achieving your goals. They can range from simple procrastination to long held limiting beliefs.


So what do you do?


Well, there are a ton of books and blogs that will teach you all the things necessary to succeed in every area of life. But the truth is there are many paths that lead to the same destination. What works for one may not work for another.


But there are certain habits that always lead to failure. Sometimes, it makes a little more sense to just focus on what not to do. Once you recognize and remove these success killers from your life, you’ll find yourself well on the road to meaningful achievement.


1. Never Getting Started – This is easily the biggest success killer out there. Everyday, millions of dreams go to waste simply because the dreamer just couldn’t get started. There are a thousand and one reasons why someone might fail to even begin:


Procrastination. Overwhelm. Insecurity. Belief that you’re not capable enough. Not smart enough. Not worthy. Getting bogged down in research leading to information overload. Poor time management. Making decisions based on others expectations of you. Fear.


Each reason needs to be dealt with in its own right, so you’d better find out which ones are holding you back and fucking deal with them. Because you will never be able to get started until you do.


And never even trying is the biggest failure of all.


2. Taking Bad Advice – This one seems so obvious, but many people have crashed and burned simply from taking poor advice. I’ve seen this a hundred times in the fitness industry. Scrawny trainers weighing all of a buck-twenty doling out muscle building advice to the kid who wants to look like Arnold.


I can’t tell who’s more delusional, the sickly trainer who thinks he knows what he’s talking about, or the eager kid hanging onto his every word.


Just ‘cause someone talks the talk doesn’t mean they’ve walked the walk.


Be selective in who you listen to. If they haven’t achieved what you want to achieve then just give ‘em the hand. Better yet, give ‘em the finger. Then go find advice elsewhere.


3. Looking for Instant Success – This one really pisses me off. And it’s becoming more and more common with each succeeding generation. I suppose it’s inevitable with all the advancements in technology, but it’s a growing flaw in character nonetheless.


Or maybe I’m just an old grump. Who knows?


What I can tell you is that there is no instant success. At least, not when it comes to true success. True success comes from putting in the work . . . sometimes years worth. It’s all about paying your dues.


I hope that concept doesn’t frighten you. But if it does, you’d better just get the fuck over it. Because if you’re unwilling to do the work; if you’re too lazy to put in the hours and the effort; then just forget it. Don’t even bother. Go back to your video games. Leave success to those who actually want it. Those who are willing to earn it.


4. Majoring in the Minors – I’ll confess, I’ve been guilty of this one on more than a few occasions. It’s just so damn easy to get caught up in all the little details while losing sight of the bigger picture.


But if you ever want to get shit done, then you need to step back and figure out what really matters. Don’t waste your time focusing on the menial tasks. Do the big things. The things that bring real payoff.


This goes back to the 80/20 rule. If you spend 80% of your time knockin’ down the important tasks, success is virtually assured. That means you need to learn to prioritize. Figure out what matters most . . . then go after it like a motherfuckin’ madman.


5. Never Upping Your Game – This is what separates the men from the boys. The pros from the amateurs. The successful from the mediocre. It’s that next step so many fail to take.


Too often we become complacent. We get comfortable with the minor level of achievement we’ve made and never take it any further. We tell ourselves we’re happy with what we’ve accomplished.


If that’s true, then great, by all means remain where you are. But more often than not it’s just a lie we tell ourselves to hide the truth . . . that we’re stuck. And we’re unwilling to do what it takes to move up to the next level.


Well fuck that.


If you are looking to reach the top – looking for true success and mastery – then you need to pop your little safety bubble, smash through your comfort zone, and break free of the belief that good enough is good enough.


Because it isn’t. Not if you’re seeking real achievement. You need to get better. You know it. So step up and just fucking do it!


6. Assuming You Know it All – This often goes hand in hand with number 5. It’s just another means of remaining stuck. And it comes with a certain smugness that makes me want to slap someone. There is always something more to learn. Always.


Don’t ever believe for a minute that you’re the shit. You’re not. Someone out there is better than you, whether you want to believe it or not. Instead of keeping your eyes closed to the possibility, be thankful for it. It means that you can still improve. You can still grow.


In the end, know-it-alls know nothing. Their very nature ensures it.


7. Giving Up – This is the saddest one of all. While never even starting may be the biggest dream killer out there, giving up is the worst. You managed to get started, you put in some time and effort, you may have even given it your best . . . then what? Things didn’t turn out as you had planned?


Well no shit. Do they ever?


So things were harder than you thought they’d be. Times got tough. You were putting in twice the work you’d anticipated, but getting only half the results. It just doesn’t seem to be paying off.


And now you’re not sure whether you should continue on. Maybe it was just a crazy dream in the first place. You’ve had enough. Time to quit.


Just fucking quit.


Congratulations. You’ve fallen pray to the worst habit out there. Quitting. And don’t delude yourself; quitting is a habit. It’s a choice you make over and over. And the more you make it, the easier it gets. You’ll soon find yourself quitting at the first signs of challenge . . . any challenge. Whatsoever.


The quitter’s nature is what defines life’s true failures. The inability to persist. A lack of determination. Always taking the easy way out.


Think I’m talking out of my ass? Then you’d better read this post and this post. And I’d also throw in this one for good measure.


Believe me, I know that quitter mentality. I know it inside and out. I’ve lived it for too much of my own life. All those wasted years. Gone. Fucking gone. And for what? Momentary comfort? A smooth ride? Avoidance of fear?


What a fucking joke.


Don’t ever quit. It makes you weak. It makes you small. It steals the strength and power that are yours by right. You must persist. You must see it through. All the way to it’s bloody fucking end.


Never give up. It’s the worst failure of all.


8. Bonus Tip – Failing is a part of life. If you’re not regularly failing at something or another, that simply means you’re not trying anything new. You’re not pushing your boundaries. You’re not testing your limits.


But there’s a HUGE difference between failing and being a failure. More often than not, the failure doesn’t fail at anything . . . because he attempts nothing. He just sits on his ass all day long content to let life pass him by. There’s another term for this kind of person: loser.


Don’t be a loser.


Go ahead and do shit. Fail. Fail often. Fail spectacularly. Failing is no big deal. But people act like it’s the fucking plague.


Just be sure to learn from your failures. If you can manage that, then it was never really a failure in the first place . . . just a lesson in disguise.


So which of these faults are holding you back? More importantly, what are you going to do about them?



p.s. If you found any value in this post — if it struck a chord or even just made you think for a moment — then I’d appreciate it if you hit some of those share buttons. In fact, I’d more than appreciate it . . . I’d fucking love it!

(Photo by bLOGOS/HA HA at flickr.)



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